THE 'BACKWARDS' LAW

According to Alan Watts, a British writer and speaker,

 “The desire for more positive is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.” 

This is a total mind fuck thing. So maybe, I would give you all a minute to unpretzel your brain and read that again. To summarise what I quoted above, ‘Wanting of positive experience is itself a negative experience. Instead we ought to first accept the negative experience.’ Now this is definitely something that would trigger you guys. I agree. It is just like thinking about the negative experience. But you see, there is a minute difference between accepting and thinking about it. 

In order to gain the ultimate guide on ‘How to be happy’ we must first accept the reason for being sad. We must accept the fact that not everything happens the way we want it to. Life would lose its meaning if it would just resort to being a piece of cake. Because it isn’t. We must accept the negativity around in order to attain the smile. Imagine it as a scar on your face. You kept thinking that it would ruin your beauty; it would simply demolish your likability. People would not like you. Now, think of it as, you have accepted the fact that you have a scar on your face, you cannot change it nor can you just end up locking yourself for your entire life. Accepting the scar you have not only would help you to deal with it but also would change your perspective towards it. 

It is what it is.

The more you desperately want to be happy and loved, the lonelier and more afraid you become, regardless of those who surround you. The more you want to be spiritually enlightened, the more self-centred and shallow you become in trying to get there.

But the more you start accepting the things going around whether it be negative; you would attain the level of absolute calmness. You would no longer be disrupted by little chaos and cacophony. 

Just think of it this way, not everything is perfect. The game is to accept the flaws and just embrace it. Accept the negativity around you, so that it is easy for you to eliminate it the next time you’re on the path of attaining positivity. 

What’s interesting about the backward law is that it’s called “backwards” for a reason: not giving a fuck works in reverse. You must now believe this law by some instances, like, the failure in the business lead to a successful business, of course with hard work. Being open with your insecurities make you a more charismatic and confident self. The pain of honest confrontation is what generates greatest trust and respect in own self. Suffering through your fear and anxieties is what allows you to build courage and perseverance. 

Learn to fondle your frailty and win over it. 

Until then Happy Today-ing.  