WHY DO EXPECTATIONS HURT?

What are you expecting from this blog? keeping the guessing game strong- you're indifferently expecting this blog to suggest you ways to either stop expecting from wrong people or how to get rid of the constant disappointments. Right? This expectation of your's is okay. I mean we do expect things whether it be a relationship or even professional diameters. Throughout our day, throughout our lives- we expect! 

You may often see people saying- expectation hurts. But why does it? Is it because we're expecting too much or is it that we're expecting from wrong ones? Is it that our expectations are too high? Or, is it that 'they' cannot accomplish what we expect from them? What exactly is the reason behind this constant miscalculation? 

In my opinion, the main reason for having disappointment is either you're expecting way too much or you're just expecting from the wrong one. And, by wrong, i mean the one who is certainly not available enough to withstand with your expectations. But you see people elucidate this unavailability by excuses. They validate the disappointment by some stupid and nonsensical extenuation. As of now, we ain't gonna discuss about these stopgaps but the arousal of such absurdness. 
NGL, I myself have experienced the disappointment in the recent past. I have jeopardized my own self by recounting on some questionable characters, who have just lived up to disrupt my mental peace. And trust me on this, if it costs you your mental peace, it's way too expensive. 

So where exactly we go wrong?
Whenever we set up our expectations, they are either high or low, optimistic or pessimistic. Both ways the expectations are wrong and treacherous. 

People also claim "no expectations, no disappointment". Do you agree? I do. I firmly do. 
Expectations urge you to be better person, not someone who'd drown the other one with misery and dismay. But expectations need not be confused with motivation build up. Have expectations only from yourself, that way who'd stay motivated and won't lose hope.  All we need to do is understand the basic difference between the realistic and unrealistic expectations. Understand the critical role of expectations in life. Simple!

For instance, when we're in a relationship, we start expecting from the moment it begins. You set your hopes so high that if the other one isn't able to withstand your expectations, the premature growth of disappointment starts.

Only lucid way to deal with it, either don't expect or keep your expectations so grounded that it won't hurt. Accept the fact that things ain't gonna happen the way you want them to happen, atleast not always. Live with it. Stop expecting from others and then the ball is in your court, only to decide what you want from yourself. 
And believe me, the moment you stop expecting from others, the question of disappointment is deleted, by default. At first, 'they' may think that you have changed or distanced yourself, but this all would be worth, more worthy than the consistent disappointment and soon you'll get to see the new, motivated versions of yourself. 
Until then, Happy today-ing. 😃❤️